Are you trying to communicate with your ex but they're not picking up your calls or returning your messages? Do you want to get back together but your ex is avoiding you? How can you possibly get your ex back if they won't return your phone calls or text messages?
If you are hoping to get back together with your ex, your desire to talk things through and resolve the problems in your relationship has probably become an obsession. Your desire to hear your ex or to find out how they're doing can turn into an impulsive urge that simply will not be silenced. You might want to say that you're sorry or to talk with your ex about all the reasons why you feel that you can make your relationship work but your ex won't answer your calls. There's a very good chance that your ex knows why you're calling and, at the moment, they don't want to discuss getting back together. There are things you can do to move your relationship in that direction, though. There are things that you can do to get your ex to talk with you again.
If you have been calling your ex a lot and leaving messages, you need to stop for a period of time. Your ex may be annoyed with all the phone calls and if you have been trying to convince your ex to talk about the breakup then they are going to avoid your calls completely. Nobody likes to talk about unpleasant things and although your ex made the decision to end your relationship, this is difficult for them also.
How long you wait before calling your ex again depends upon how often you have been trying to get in touch with them and how many messages you have left for them. All of this includes text messages and emails, also. Often a week is a sufficient amount of time to wait but if you have been calling multiple times a day since your breakup then it might take two weeks or more. Time has a healing effect on how we feel about others. Give your ex some time to begin to miss you and to forget about the fact that you have been trying to call them so often.
Next, before you contact your ex again, you should try to create some mystery. Avoiding contacting your ex will help your ex to start to miss you but you should also create some mystery about what has been going on in your life. Avoid talking about the breakup with your friends or family. Avoid posting sad status messages on your social networking profiles. Your life needs to be a mystery to your ex so when you do get back in touch with them they will be curious about what has been going on in your life.
You can further enhance this effect by and create more mystery by using social networking. Avoid the temptation to post things that remind you of your ex such as photos or songs. Instead, post things that tell the world that you're happy and optimistic. Funny things that make you laugh are best. You want everyone to think that you are doing well and that life has returned to normal. If you are tempted to post things that are going to send a message to your ex then it's better that you post nothing to your page. Sad posts or sentimental posts will only tell your ex that you're still thinking about them and you want them to wonder what's going on with you lately, remember?
Before you try to call your ex again, you should try a simple text message after you have avoided contacting them for a period of time. These days, sending text messages before you talk to your ex on the phone has become a kind of rule. When a couple is arguing or when there are bad feelings between two people, the impersonal nature of text messaging allows you to say what you need to say without having to worry about your tone of voice. This will work to your benefit.
It will be best if you keep things short and sweet when you send your first message to your ex. A simple message that is upbeat and positive should do the trick after you have waited the proper amount of time. Avoid talking about the breakup or getting back together and don't become frustrated if your ex doesn't reply back to you immediately. Be patient and wait until he replies. When he does reply, think your response through before sending it and make your messages appear to be happy and positive. Avoid arguing or becoming upset through your messages and match the length and frequency to what your ex sends you. You can progress to talking on the phone by asking your ex to call you by saying that you have something funny to tell them but you can't be bothered with typing it all out.
It can be frustrating to want to talk to your ex and to have them avoid your phone calls. You have lost your best friend in the world. Your ex was the person that you talked with when something wonderful happened as well as when something bad happened. Now you're alone without your best friend to talk about your feelings with.
These tips should help you to get back in touch with your ex and begin the process of winning their heart back. You should be able to, step by step, rebuild your relationship from here on out if you're patient with your ex. There will be days when the waiting will feel unbearable and moments when you're going to be tempted to try to call your ex again. Avoid that temptation and remember what you have learned here about how to get your ex to talk to you again.
If you are hoping to get back together with your ex, your desire to talk things through and resolve the problems in your relationship has probably become an obsession. Your desire to hear your ex or to find out how they're doing can turn into an impulsive urge that simply will not be silenced. You might want to say that you're sorry or to talk with your ex about all the reasons why you feel that you can make your relationship work but your ex won't answer your calls. There's a very good chance that your ex knows why you're calling and, at the moment, they don't want to discuss getting back together. There are things you can do to move your relationship in that direction, though. There are things that you can do to get your ex to talk with you again.
If you have been calling your ex a lot and leaving messages, you need to stop for a period of time. Your ex may be annoyed with all the phone calls and if you have been trying to convince your ex to talk about the breakup then they are going to avoid your calls completely. Nobody likes to talk about unpleasant things and although your ex made the decision to end your relationship, this is difficult for them also.
How long you wait before calling your ex again depends upon how often you have been trying to get in touch with them and how many messages you have left for them. All of this includes text messages and emails, also. Often a week is a sufficient amount of time to wait but if you have been calling multiple times a day since your breakup then it might take two weeks or more. Time has a healing effect on how we feel about others. Give your ex some time to begin to miss you and to forget about the fact that you have been trying to call them so often.
Next, before you contact your ex again, you should try to create some mystery. Avoiding contacting your ex will help your ex to start to miss you but you should also create some mystery about what has been going on in your life. Avoid talking about the breakup with your friends or family. Avoid posting sad status messages on your social networking profiles. Your life needs to be a mystery to your ex so when you do get back in touch with them they will be curious about what has been going on in your life.
You can further enhance this effect by and create more mystery by using social networking. Avoid the temptation to post things that remind you of your ex such as photos or songs. Instead, post things that tell the world that you're happy and optimistic. Funny things that make you laugh are best. You want everyone to think that you are doing well and that life has returned to normal. If you are tempted to post things that are going to send a message to your ex then it's better that you post nothing to your page. Sad posts or sentimental posts will only tell your ex that you're still thinking about them and you want them to wonder what's going on with you lately, remember?
Before you try to call your ex again, you should try a simple text message after you have avoided contacting them for a period of time. These days, sending text messages before you talk to your ex on the phone has become a kind of rule. When a couple is arguing or when there are bad feelings between two people, the impersonal nature of text messaging allows you to say what you need to say without having to worry about your tone of voice. This will work to your benefit.
It will be best if you keep things short and sweet when you send your first message to your ex. A simple message that is upbeat and positive should do the trick after you have waited the proper amount of time. Avoid talking about the breakup or getting back together and don't become frustrated if your ex doesn't reply back to you immediately. Be patient and wait until he replies. When he does reply, think your response through before sending it and make your messages appear to be happy and positive. Avoid arguing or becoming upset through your messages and match the length and frequency to what your ex sends you. You can progress to talking on the phone by asking your ex to call you by saying that you have something funny to tell them but you can't be bothered with typing it all out.
It can be frustrating to want to talk to your ex and to have them avoid your phone calls. You have lost your best friend in the world. Your ex was the person that you talked with when something wonderful happened as well as when something bad happened. Now you're alone without your best friend to talk about your feelings with.
These tips should help you to get back in touch with your ex and begin the process of winning their heart back. You should be able to, step by step, rebuild your relationship from here on out if you're patient with your ex. There will be days when the waiting will feel unbearable and moments when you're going to be tempted to try to call your ex again. Avoid that temptation and remember what you have learned here about how to get your ex to talk to you again.
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